Chapter 54: Father’s Day

Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.

Luke 6:38

As we sit and think about the Father’s in our lives today, we have memories surface from our experience of WHO and WHAT a father is.  I pray that I am to my children, what my dad was to me!  The example he set, the presence he had, the love he gave.  The standard was set high, and I do my best to follow in his example (which is following His example!).  I realize that as a father, the example I set for my children will have an influence in who they become as they grow older.  May God grant me the wisdom to raise Godly children!

These last three weeks, and this upcoming week, have been incredibly difficult.  Poland has been our home for the better part of the last four and half years.  Our children have all lived longer in Poland than the United States, becoming true Third Culture Kids.  Dottie has actually only spent 5 days outside of Poland!  The dynamic of friendship as an expat changes the intensity of the relationships.  This means that for our family we have very deep friendships here, which means the goodbye’s (or see you later!) are really hard.

Even in the midst of this difficulty, we have glimpses of our future which brings great joy.  The joy comes from knowing that our family is following God’s direction and leading.  This path will take us to Vancouver, BC, through Portland, via Pagosa Springs, and beginning in Oklahoma City. We hold tight to the promises of God and have a great hope in having a home to live in, the right job for me, and a balance with our growing family (remember we have another on the way!)!

We have a plan for the next month, but August is really a time of unknowns.  Where will I work?  Where will we live?  What school will our children attend?  When (or which city?) will we get a vehicle? Financially how does this all work out (hah, this is my favorite!)?  We, as humans in this fallen world, can get overwhelmed.  I took my eyes off of the problem solver and onto the problems that seem to be a great mountain before us.  I became downcast, frustrated with God’s timing, and almost hopeless even in light of the promises.  But God (one of my favorite parts of scripture), spoke truth and wisdom to me, granted me peace, and filled my heart with His love and compassion.  I know I will not have all the answers, but I trust that God will continue to be my family’s provider and protector as He has been all this time.

Please be praying for our family as we conclude our time in Poland.  We have a major transition in our lives as we move from Central Europe to the Pacific Northwest.

Please also continue to be praying for:

-Clothing: For all of us (message for sizes)

-Car:  We will need a 6+Passenger vehicle for our growing family (probably mini-van or SUV)

-Travel Expenses: Food/Gas/Hotels

-Deposits/Down Payments/Furniture/Moving Expenses

-For the Art Auction/Fundraiser

If you wanted to participate in the Art Auction/Fundraiser, it will take place at Centerpoint Church in Pagosa Springs, Coloardo.  If you are unable to visit in person but still want to contribute towards the fundraiser, you can follow the details below:

  1. Go to
  2. Select First Time to create an account (recurring options) or quick give (one time)
  3. Change “my donation” to “MISSIONS-Poland Mission”
  4. In the “Other Comments” you can say “Graves Family”

– OR –

Make checks (or cash) payable to: “Centerpoint Church”
In the notes say it is for: “Graves Family”
Send to:
Centerpoint Church (Attn: Logan Irvin)
2750 Cornerstone Dr
Pagosa Springs, CO 81147

Thank you all for your prayers and support during this major change in our family’s life.  Your prayers have lifted our spirits!  We are excited to take this next step in our journey following God’s leading.


The Graves Family


p.s.  As always, if you have something we can be praying specifically for, please feel free to send us an email at thegravesabroad@