Chapter 60: Thankfulness

Rejoice in the Lord always, Again I will say, rejoice!

Philippians 4:4 NKJV

Rejoicing is not always easy.

Life is not always easy.

Michelle shared this not too long ago:


“Back in November, when I was heavily pregnant and we were still living with my brother-in-law and sister’s apartment. I heard God tell me to take a photo of this room and call it “thankfulness.” I was, to be honest, losing hope.

I felt like Mary. I had just left the country I loved (Poland) out of very difficult and traumatic circumstances. Our last year in Poland was tumultuous, actually. It was home. It was where Brad and I grew and became even more humble, honest, hard working humans. We sacrificed a lot by being there. But saw so many miracles. We experienced God in ways we only read about in the book of Acts. We learned heart ache, betrayal, loss, hunger, anger, resentment, unforgiveness, lies, dreams being crushed. The list goes on, really. There were times we thought it was too much to breathe. It was a very hard time.

In the middle of our pain and sorrow we learned to focus on thankfulness and cultivating an attitude of praise. Deciding to be grateful for it all. We learned, slowly, how to let go. One by one we forgave those who hurt us. We prayed for those who needed healing. We stuck it through. Literally the only thing we never let go of was hope in a love bigger than us.

Fast forward to November as I say on the living room floor by myself. I found my thoughts going over the pain and loss of the last five years and cried so hard my cheeks burned. But when I cried I didn’t feel that gut wrenching pain from wounds that never healed. The sorrow I felt was for “home.” Somewhere to feel we belonged. After months of being on the road and having no space to ourselves it was hard to imagine our own home other than our flat in Kraków. So I cried.

That’s when I heard God say “go take a photo of your kids’ room. In a short while your world won’t look like this and you’ll want to look back on this and say ‘thank you’ to me.”

So here I am 8.5 months later, in our own home (because of some crazy people who love God and us and wanted to partner with us in this crazy new ministry/life). The kids have their favorite pictures hung on the walls of their rooms. The backyard has a trampoline we all spent four years praying for. Dottie squeals with delight in the paddling pool.

And all I can think about is this picture and how I feel so so thankful.

Thank you for partnering with us these five years. Thank you for your monetary support as we never forgot to be grateful. Thank you for praying for us in the night and hugging us when we visited your home or church or coffee shop. Thank you for thinking of us. No one really knows how many prayers were answered because of your kindness to our family.

God is so kind. And I am a blubbering grateful human because of Him.”



This last year has been a wild roller coaster…isn’t that how our family’s life seems to be?!  Hah!  I feel like I have written this statement on more than one occasion.  It has been used to describe some incredible highs like moving to Poland, the birth of 2 children(since you joined us on the journey), opening a cafe, new jobs, healings, and awesome miracles.  It has also been used to describe some crazy lows in life like a severely burned arm, car crashes, leaving Poland, leaving friends, tiny homes, constant transition, and financial stress.

But God.  He is the full package, all inclusive.  Resting at the bottom in the lows, God was(and is!) there.  Soaring to each one of the highs, God was(and is!) there.  Because no matter what part of the ride we are on, God is there.  He isn’t looking ahead or distracted by what was behind, He is watching us with an unquenchable joy.

Most of you joined us during our time in Poland.  We filled these newsletters with our grand adventures abroad serving God in a far off place.

We were Missionaries.

When God called us back stateside we thought everything was going to be different.  We heard rumors that our time as missionaries had ended, and that since we were not moving to Canada, we had returned to “normal life.”  I have talked with our sending church’s Pastor Jon about how nothing feels different.  Our families perspective on life has been forever changed.  The only thing that has changed?  Our mailing address…and the size of our family.

We “returned” from Poland to a culture that was not familiar to us.  What were these oversized trucks that don’t fit into normal parking spaces, supermarkets that have more varieties and brands of cereal than they have customers in a day, the eye contact, the inquiries into “how are you today?” with disinterest at any response given, and….pajamas in public?  We realize that our adventure is far from over.  Because…

We are missionaries.

Because we all are.  I still work with coffee.  We still serve.  We still show up.  We thank God during all parts of the ride.  We are on the ride, the grand adventure that is life.  That in itself is enough to bring forth praise, thanksgiving, and much rejoicing.

This culture is just as foreign to me as any other.

This upcoming month Jack and Loralie will be attending a new public school.  Davis Elementary is not the highly ranked and offers a diversity rivaling that of the UN.  We are excited to get them plugged in and meet our new neighbors.  The school is only a 5 minute walk from our home!

I am continuing to work with Intent Coffee Roasting and am loving every minute of it.  It is still the healthiest work environment I have ever been in and the shared vision of what a coffee shop can/should be is really exciting!

Michelle is looking forward to the return of school, but rocks the role of Mom.  She leads the kiddos fearlessly, setting an example that is noticed by all who meet her.  I am thankful that God has blessed me with such an amazing partner in life!

We have been settling into our new house nicely.  We are winning the war against the ants, enjoying a yard with a trampoline and kiddy pool, and  we have space.  So much to thank a generous God!

Please join us in prayer as we:

~search for a new church home and community to be apart of.  We believe we have found the right one, but are praying for wisdom.

~adjust to a new School, new neighbors, new friends.  We are excited to get plugged into our neighborhood and city.

~prioritize our time, needs, and resources.

~establish our home as safe space for our kids friends, small groups, and other ministry opportunities.


Chapter 59: One year later

Some of you may have noticed.  It’s been awhile.

June 26th we arrived at the Krakow Airport with a grand adventure ahead of us.  We didn’t anticipate just how adventurous it was going to be.  We knew, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that God was leading us towards something.  At the time we were confident it was a call to Vancouver BC with weigh stations in OKC, Colorado, and Portland.  When we prayed about our future, we knew God was promising a vehicle, a job, and a house.  We had no idea exactly how He was going to do this.

As you have read before, God provided a Van, debt free.

Again, God provided a job.  When we realized that Vancouver was either a not yet or a means to get us to Portland, God opened the door for me to work with a coffee friend in Portland.  I now have a job that allows me to work in coffee, in one of the healthiest work environments I have ever had the privilege of being apart of.  I did everything I could to get my foot in the door in Canada.  I even traveled up to Vancouver and interviewed at various coffee roasters and shops for any potential job listing.  Little did i know just how hard it was for an American to get a job in Canada…or the cost of living for Vancouver!

And now, God is providing a house!

When we first moved to Portland we enrolled the kids into school near our temporary apartment in Beaverton on the West side of town.  At the time I was traveling downtown to help with coffee, so it worked perfectly.  After Charlie’s birth, my coffee job moved out to Gresham on the far East Side of Portland.  This has my daily commute at 1.5 hours a day, round trip!  A few months back we really felt God leading us to move out to the  Gresham area.  The major problem? We don’t qualify for a house big enough for our family of 6!  Our lender and realtor dropped this news with the understanding that we only qualifying for roughly a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom house.  When we found this out, we did the best we could…we surrendered it to God, we waited patiently, we trusted.

Two weeks later we received a phone call from friends and prayer partners that God told them to buy us a house.  Two weeks after that, an offer was placed and accepted on a house.  This house is big enough for our family, with room for us to grow into!  If all goes according to plan with inspection, appraisal, and financial acceptance we will close on the house June 26th.

Life is a crazy adventure.  In one year God completely transformed our lives.  Leaving Poland with 13 bags, no job, no vehicle, no home…only hope.  One year later we find ourselves in Portland with a moving truck, a job, a van, a home…filled with joy!

God never promised that the journey would be easy, and it wasn’t.  Instead, we trusted in His provision, timing, and protection.

Please join us in prayer as we:

~search for a new church home and community to be apart of.

~wait for the inspection, appraisal, and final closing of the house to be completed

~search for our place in the Rockwood/Gresham community.

~adjust to a more permanent home and another move, new School, new neighbors, new friends.  It has been a long journey!

~seek out purchases for moving into a home and putting the final “home” touches on this house (appliances, yard equipment, trampoline, etc)


Today is the day!  We have an appointment at the Hospital at 4pm PST for Michelle to be induced.  We will likely only update after delivery, and after Michelle has had some rest.  Keep our family in your prayers as we go through one more transition this year…i think number 2040239840?  Or something like that.  After we get more settled we will have a registry set up for those last extra items.


Much love from the Graves family!

Chapter 58: A solid perspective

For he is the living God,

and he will endure forever.

His kingdom will never be destroyed,

and his rule will never end.

He rescues and saves his people;

he performs miraculous signs and wonders

in the heavens and on earth.

He has rescued Daniel

from the power of the lions.”


Daniel 6:26-27 NLT

These last 6 years have been one crazy adventure after another, getting wilder by the minute.  It seems like only yesterday that we were welcoming Jack into the world, unsuspecting of twists and turns ahead of us.  We have had many highs, and many lows.  The mountains and valleys on our family’s journey have given us a very different perspective on life and what we hold value in.  I wouldn’t take any of these experiences back, the lessons have been invaluable.

Though we have yet to reach our final destination, which we still believe to be Vancouver BC, we are confident that God has us right where He wants us (Portland, OR).  Whether we are here for 6 or 60 months, we will continue to pursue His will.  So I’ll try to paint that picture of what we are currently working on and what we believe we will be doing in the days to come.

Brad will be working with a friend in Portland who roasts coffee.  This will turn into a more full time job, providing a solid foundation that we are not12 used to working off of!  More specifics will be provided after paperwork is signed.  Until then, I will continue to connect with the coffee community here in Portland.  These guys and gals are fun to be around and passionate for coffee.  It reminds me of the Polish coffee community I so dearly miss.  I look forward to connecting my passions of coffee and community in the months to come!  As always, I am excited to work around my trade and dive deeper into coffee.

Michelle will be more focused on the kids, as Baby Graves #4 is due sometime between November 24th to December 1st…which means any day now we will expanding to a family of 6!  Jack is continuing to excel with Homeschooling, Loralie is meshing well with her 2nd grade class (and has tested for TAG/Talented And Gifted) at her school! Dottie is a busy little bee with new words and sign language each day!  Life is full.

We have so much happening in the next two weeks: a new job, (soon) new apartment, new baby.  The reality of of all this can be crushing at times.  Regardless, Jack and Loralie are excited, and Dottie is oblivious.  Having a new apartment that is not furnished, reminds us of all the items we don’t have.  We have found some items (a single couch, table with 4 chairs, dresser, beds, some plates….), but we understand our move into an empty apartment will take time.

We are thankful for what God has provided us these past three months in Portland.  Our sister and Brother in law have provided food and shelter, what an incredible blessing this has been.  Though we will miss their company,  we are excited to finally transition to a place of our own after 6 months of living with others.

Life doesn’t always happen how we expect or want it to.  The rubber meets the road with how we respond to life.  Our family would have not survived these last five years if we hadn’t had a solid foundation in Christ.  Our family’s identity is key to changing the perspective we view our daily lives.  Where did we turn when Jack burned his arm, when we had conflict with our business (how we responded), when we fought and had disagreements (how we sorted through conflict), when our children were disobedient (how we responded).

Please continue to pray for our family as we…

…move into our new apartment and figure out what we need to restart our lives (utensils, pots and pans, toiletries, etc etc etc).  Not just with all the small pieces we are missing, but as we connect with our neighbors and get to know them.

…grow to 6!  Baby Graves 4 is coming within the next 2 weeks(yes possibly before, during or after our move).  We have a bed and a few outfits…depending on whether its a boy or girl we have some donors with clothes waiting!  But its all the other little pieces that we need to still bring together.

…plug into our local church and establishing a community group.  That we would find the right families in the right community.

…adjust to a new job.  As I provide my knowledge and expertise, and in learning my new roles.

Chapter 57: Similarities to Daniel

16Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. 17If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. 18But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up.”
Daniel 3: 16-18
Lately I have felt that I can relate to these three.  This journey seemed to be so simple and straight forward.  Trust God, Be Patient, God moves.  I innocently forgot that God doesn’t play it safe, He moves at a snails pace, and shows up exactly on time…in His perfect timing.  At the end of the day, no matter what, He is still our God.
Loralie is doing great in school!  She has connected with new friends, has a non-hostile school environment, and she has been recognized by the teacher as leader and role model  We are super proud of her!  Jack was enrolled in Kindergarten but was not responding well in the classroom. We decided to home school him and have seen tremendous progress!  He is incredibly smart, but requires patience.  Dottie is 19 months old and is incredibly talkative.  Every day we see more of her personality develop.  She is incredible.
We believe we will soon be able to share our next step with regards to our time in Portland and where I will be working.  Again, not yet the time for all the details (I still don’t know them all!) but we believe it is the reason why God has had me wait so long.  Of course, if this isn’t it…God must have another plan!  This has seemed to be one, long, drawn out experience of stretching our faith to build perseverance.

Please keep our family in your prayers!  We are still going through major transition as we prepare for baby #4 (still not 100% sure whether a boy or girl), Brad starting a new job, and we are still not 100% sure of what our housing will look like.  We are incredibly thankful for Michelle’s sister and brother- in-law for housing us during this time.  It seems like every time we have needs people show up.

Please continue to pray for…

-our finances, during this time of unknown, uncertainty, and transition (deposits/rent/start-up of new house things).

-our housing, whether a house(which we would prefer) or apartment and stuff to fill it…we literally have only a few items.  When we move (2-4 weeks, we think) we will have empty shelves, rooms, etc.

-a church home, we believe we have found our new church home.  Pray for wisdom and discernment.

-the kids and their adjustment in this time of transition and changing family dynamic.

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